Hey there! How are you all?
I don’t know about you but when I wanted to start a family, I had so many preconceptions about how that would look. I romanticised it all, looking at magazines and dreaming about how perfect it would be. I thought I was going to be the most natural mum in the world. I was 30 When my son was born and felt that was plenty old enough to be ‘ready’. I’d read all the books, watched all the programmes and I had so much love to give. It was going to be perfect.
Oh my! When he did finally come into the world after a very long and hard labour that ended by me having a c section (the very thing I didn’t want), I was utterly exhausted. I was also so in love with my beautiful baby boy! I couldn’t believe he was mine and that he was in my arms after being hidden inside me for 9 months. It was the most amazing experience of my life!
We may have thought bringing our baby’s into the world was the hard bit, but that really is the easiest part isn’t it? It doesn’t even enter your head what it will be like as they grow up. What school will they go to, who will their friends be? The heartache when they come home crying because someone has been mean to them or just as bad, finding out they have been mean to someone else’s child.
No one prepares you for that all consuming love and protection that you feel for your child. Even the mildest mannered women would fight for their children! It’s a strange and all consuming feeling. You do not want to mess with a mama and her baby (whatever age they are)!
It’s such a roller coaster of emotions. One minute everything is ticking along nicely and the next there’s some kind of drama! It’s always changing. Just when you think you have it all sorted, it changes – constantly! Whatever stage we are at, we have never been there before, its new territory. We might make the mistake of thinking that because we have been through that stage with one child, we will know what we are doing next time, but we soon find out its different with each one!!
I think it’s fair to say that being a Mum has been the most difficult thing I have ever done, but it is also the most amazing experience I have ever had and I would not change it for anything. It’s such a privilege, that not everyone has the chance to experience.
It’s also true, that no matter how much we love them they can drive us nuts, like no one else can and cut you to the quick with some of their words, but there is nothing more fulfilling than watching your little people develop and evolve. First smiles, first steps and words. The first time they get a special mention at school, listening to their sweet conversations with their friends. Hearing them say things you know they’ve learnt from you.
It’s a beautiful journey, from the very beginning, with all its different challenges but when they bring those cards on Mothers Day or any other occasion for that matter, telling you that they love you, it’s the most amazing feeling of all and for all its ups and downs and heartaches at times, it makes it all worth while.
Happy Mother’s Day to all you Mums out there.
It would be great to hear some of your stories and hear how you have found parenthood. Looking forward to hearing from you as ever.
Much love ❤️