Growing Into Our Skin

Have you noticed how we are all on some kind of mission for perpetual youth?  Of course you have, its such a part of everyday life for us, constantly being bombarded with adverts of how to keep skin looking fresh, the latest thing that prevents wrinkles and offers to join the gym for the perfect body etc etc.

Now, I am someone who likes to make the most of myself but it is such an unnatural and unhelpful pressure for us all to keep up with.  It also creates a very derogatory message that unless you look ‘beautiful’ on the outside you don’t quite measure up.  What a dreadfully sad message that is and so wrong.

In February I reached my mid forties, 45 years old!  I really do struggle to believe that I have reached this age so quickly which I know we all seem to experience, but its got me asking all kinds of questions about how I’ve lived my life so far and what I want from the rest of my life.

What I do realise now is the way I look is not as important as I used to think.  The amount of time I spent at the gym or some other activity along with denying myself all kinds of foods that I loved just so I felt good about myself externally was crazy, and it didn’t make me happy with myself on the inside.

I was looking on social media about 2 years ago, and I found this fantastic quote

‘Do not begrudge getting old, it is a privilege denied to many’

Wow – that struck me so deeply.  We all worry about our cellulite, wobbly tummy and all the rest of it when in reality what on earth does any of that matter if we’re not here to enjoy it. I’m pretty sure that when we are in our last moments we won’t be worrying about how good we looked or didn’t look, but about how well we loved and were loved.

Please hear what I’m saying in this, Im not suggesting we shouldn’t look after ourselves or go to the gym or make an effort to look good, but when that desire takes over and becomes your main motivation above everything else, it really is unhealthy.  Life is for living, not constantly being unhappy with different parts of our appearance that we want to change.  If we all spent as much time trying to get our hearts right as we do with the way we look what an amazing change there would be in the world.

I really am enjoying getting older.  I don’t always like the wrinkles I see in the mirror, but I do like understanding myself and being so much more content with who I am and not constantly comparing myself to others.  I like who I am.  That doesn’t mean I don’t have down days, upsets with Mr H, the children or anyone else.  It doesn’t mean I spring out of bed everyday or that there aren’t things that I want to work on in myself.  It means I am becoming more and more content as time passes.

What I’m trying to say is I believe the best is yet to come.  Instead of worrying about how we look and longing for the days we had that beautiful beach body and no wrinkles, lets get hold of who we are now and all the wisdom we have acquired.  Lets embrace getting older, the gift that it is, and enjoy it!

What are your thoughts about getting older? It would be so great to have some feedback on the blog.

Thanks for reading, hope you enjoyed it.


Much love


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  • Reply Nicky April 22, 2016 at 5:17 pm

    Great post Kate. There’s nothing wrong with getting older and you are right we should embrace it. Im 50 next year and cant wait to celebrate. I still feel 18 inside but I think with age comes wisdom. Enjoy it. We are lucky to be here. x

    • Reply Anonymous April 22, 2016 at 8:31 pm

      Thank you Nicky so pleased you enjoyed the post and that you are enjoying your journey xxx

  • Reply Hannah April 23, 2016 at 7:13 am

    I sometimes wonder if I’m in denial about my age and then start to wonder if I dress appropriately or if I’m dressing too young etc but mostly don’t think anything of it. love the quote about it being a privalege and not taking it for granted. I never look at anyone and think “err she/he’s old” mostly I think “oh I hope I look at good when I’m that age” then I start to think about how I could look after myself better. There ya go… A blog on a blog.

    • Reply Kate April 23, 2016 at 10:27 am

      Thanks so much for your response Hannah! Xxx

  • Reply Jeane April 23, 2016 at 9:55 am

    What a fabulous post about aging. I loved reading this Kate…yes it’s all about looking after ourself as best we can without hassling about it and enjoying growing older graciously. I enjoyed my youth although it was misspent but no regrets and now I really love being an older woman as I have so much more wisdom, experience and confidence in who I am as a woman of God.. A melon ripens with age! Xx

    • Reply Kate April 23, 2016 at 10:26 am

      Love this Jeane! Such a beautiful Melon xxxxx

  • Reply Tracy Sage April 23, 2016 at 10:00 am

    Amen to that x

    • Reply Kate April 23, 2016 at 12:22 pm

      Thanks Tracey xxx

  • Reply moira Dudney April 25, 2016 at 6:51 am

    Dear kate, how right you are. What an inspirational young woman you are. Love as always, Moiraxxxx

    • Reply Kate April 25, 2016 at 1:25 pm

      Thank you Moira xxx

  • Reply Vanessa March 2, 2017 at 9:14 am

    I loved reading all your blogs! Keep up the great work!! This was a a great read. I just turned 21, I was born in 1995. But, I always felt old and had a fear of getting older! Silly. I know. Lol. I found this blog insightful thou!

    • Reply Kate March 2, 2017 at 1:52 pm

      Thank you so much Vanessa I really appreciate your encouragement and I’m pleased you found it helpful too xxx

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