Hey lovelies how are you all doing today? As you can see from the title I am talking about ‘depression’ in this post. Not the most exciting subject in the world I know, but one that affects a huge number of us, wether it is a personal battle or its someone we love that battles with it, either way it’s personal! Also in the title though is destiny and that’s the good bit! As I’ve mentioned in previous posts it is something that I have dealt with most of my life and I know this gets said a lot, but if I can help one person through this post it will be worth it.
Depression doesn’t have the same stigma attached as it used to years ago so we are moving in the right direction to deal with it, but for some it still holds such a lot of shame. THERE IS NO SHAME IN SUFFERING WITH SUCH AN AWFUL CONDITION. I have been on medication on and off for the last 14 yrs which used to make me feel like such a failure. Why could everyone else cope and not me? Firstly, not everyone is coping, we don’t know what other people are going through apart from what they choose to tell us. Learning that has been a huge help. Secondly, it is a condition or an illness just like any other, people suffer with all kinds of things like hay fever, migraines, asthma and much worse things on a daily basis. There is no shame in any of those so why depression???
Looking back at my life I can see that it has effected every part of it for as long as I can remember. It sounds so desperately sad, and it is in one sense, but I now have a better understanding of it and myself to be able to cope better than ever. I believe it’s one of the ways we can all learn to deal with it, knowing yourself and knowing how depression effects you personally. We are all so very different so what works for one may not work for another. It’s so important that we look forward in our lives and not back. Focusing on what we have missed or lost because of depression, maybe a relationship or a job, whatever it may be, will not bring any peace. What’s done is done, but how you move forward in your future is what matters.
Whoever you are and whatever kind of personality you have a very important thing is to be kind to yourself. Yes KIND TO YOURSELF! We have become far too good at putting ourselves down, it’s time to start believing the best about yourself, not focusing on the rubbish that other people have said and that you have said and believed about yourself. Words are powerful, they can encourage or destroy.
Depression DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. You are a person in your own right with hopes and dreams, it is something you have to be real about and deal with, but it is not WHO YOU ARE. For me, being honest and open about it has been a huge help, I totally understand that not all personality types can deal with things in the same way, but finding your own ways to help you is paramount. Knowing times and situations that can trigger those feelings and avoiding them where possible is a great place to start.
Also for those of you who don’t struggle with depression yourself but are close to someone that does, it’s tough! I have always been on the other side, but can appreciate how hard it has been for those around me to cope with. It’s another reason to be honest about it and be able talk about your situation, just because your not the one ‘with depression’ doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid, they absolutely are! It’s important that everyone’s feelings are taken into consideration.
If someone had told me 2yrs ago I would be writing this and doing other new things I would not have believed them as I didn’t believe in myself or that I had anything to say or contribute. It’s still a challenge, especially with a post like this, which means being very honest and transparent to so many. I have to keep stepping out and believing in myself, (so hard I know but if I can start to do it you can too).
Life is still a rocky road at times and I have days where I feel like I just can’t do it, but knowing that I can and have helps me to get through those days. There are times when I get motivated and rise above it and there are also times when I can’t. On the latter I try and be kind to myself and remember that tomorrow is another day and the likelihood is that it will be a better one. I used to feel so overwhelmed by it that I could not see any light at the end of the tunnel, but there is, always!
I believe that everyone has a destiny and it could be what your doing righ now, being a wife and a mum, it could be doing another job to your best ability, it could be to do something you have always dreamed of but never believed possible. EVERYTHING is possible, we have to leave fear behind and go after what we want with all our hearts. It doesn’t have to be huge and it doesn’t have to be small, but it has to be what really is in your heart to do – fulfill your destiny, not other people’s. It’s what I’m trying to do every day.
Really for me the whole thing is a miracle. When I use that word, I mean it in its true sense. I can honestly say that God has been my rock! I believe it’s why Im where I am in my life right now, in the best place I’ve ever been! I’m not saying God just fixed it all, it’s about partnering with Him and working together. I feel so very blessed.
If you are reading this and really struggling to see a way out of the darkness please know I truly have been there and know how you feel and there is always a way out, there is always hope ❤️
I would so love to hear from you. Have you found this post helpful? Are there certain aspects of depression you would appreciate a post on? Is it you who has or is struggling with depression or someone you know? I will answer all your comments.
Take care and be kind to yourself ❤️