Dont Look Back You’re Not Going That Way

Hi all you lovelies! Hope you are all well.

Personally, I have not been as productive as I would have liked, but hey that’s ok.  I’m having some treatment at the moment (that sounds soooo serious – it isn’t), that seems to be making me especially tired, which obviously makes it harder to get stuff done.

Anyhow what I wanted to talk about today is where do we focus our minds?  By that I mean do you spend your time thinking about the past, the present or the future? Are you even aware of where you focus is?

For many years my mind was forever looking back at my past.  What went wrong? Why did I do that? Why didn’t they do this? How would things be now if that hadn’t happened?

I was constantly looking back and going over and over how things could be different. If only!! Can anybody relate to that? Now if we were walking down the street and looking back the whole time, we would end up walking into a lamppost, falling over or something just as painful. The point I’m trying to make is that looking back to the past is NO GOOD for you.

It took me a lot of years to work that one out. My first marriage broke down.  I did not want the marriage to end but it was out of my control. I spent years trying to figure it out and asking what if?. I spent so much time in that place that I wasn’t looking where I was going (so to speak) and to an extent ‘robbed’ myself of the present.

Don’t get me wrong, when a major event happens in your life like a divorce or other heartbreaking circumstances, it is good to spend time grieving and looking at it and trying to understand what happened and how you can learn and move on from it.  It’s part of our healing process, but there needs to come a time when you can let go and start moving forward with your life. We cannot change the past but we can, to a degree, change our present and future by the choices we make.

Now looking to the future can be a good thing as we need to have plans and aspirations of what we would like to do and where we would like to be in the future. It says in the bible ‘where there is no vision, the people perish’. It’s a good thing, but it’s not good to spend all our time and energy in the future.

I think most of us have heard the saying ‘life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans’ it’s easy to get so caught up in thinking ahead and the deception that once we get this job, once the kids are older, once we have more money that’s when life will really begin and be better. Life is happening today with all the good the bad and everything in between. I’m in the process of trying to remember this and it’s not always easy.

There will always be things that we want to be over quickly and don’t look forward to and things we can’t wait for and don’t want to be over too soon, but I think the art of being content with ourselves despite our circumstances is one that we would all benefit from.

What are your thoughts on this subject? Would so like to hear from you. It would also be great if you could share this with others.

Thanks for reading. Take care ❤️




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  • Reply Jayne j January 28, 2016 at 12:40 am

    Very encouraging Kate. I love what you write, so open, wise and honest. Keep sharing with us …Thank you.
    Love jx

    • Reply Kate January 28, 2016 at 1:03 pm

      Thank you so much Jane. It really is such a help to know that what I’m writing is useful to people. Much love x

  • Reply sharon Cheeseman January 28, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    Thank you Kate. So glad to know others go through similar thoughts and yet we are so different. We deal with things in so many different ways. We are stronger than we think we are and often feel tested. We put brave faces on and struggle through. While inside we are broken ànd sore and weeping. Faith and my relationship with Jesus got me through my marriage break and helped me stay strong for my children. People see you at the other end but only God has seen and knows the journey we have tàken. Knowing God has a sense of humour I’m reluctant to make to many plans. But He loves for us to dream. I just want to give you à big love hug. Live for today. Each day is a gift, that is why it is called the present.

    • Reply Kate January 28, 2016 at 8:16 pm

      Thank you for the hug and the wise words xxx

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